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Building your kid up

It is difficult being a kid.

You get congratulated for your first words, and then you get told that children should be seen and not heard.

Your first steps get publicized all over social media, then you get in trouble for wandering off. Sometimes children feel like they cannot do anything right, so it is important to build children up and give them kudos for their accomplishments.

I personally do not agree with participation trophies (trophies given out to everyone who shows up), or just telling the child they are smart. Praise them for specific accomplishments. Praise children when they get good grades, do something to help out another person, or do their chores without being asked. This way the child will know specific behaviors that are worth repeating.

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Does Your Teenager Have An Allowance?

Every parent wants their children to be successful, and we have a tendency to help, even financially, a bit too much.

As children become adults, they need to learn how to be financially independent. That starts with communication. Sit your child down and open your books to them. They will probably be surprised at how much money it costs to run a family. As you show them your numbers, show them how to start budgeting for themselves. Help them set up their own bank accounts if they do not currently have one, and help them to budget how much money they would need to save for rent, food, and necessities. Even if they can’t afford it all now, it gives them a plan and action steps to work toward.

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Want To Be Closer With Your Partner? Get Couples Coaching

Want to be closer to your partner than ever before? Get couples coaching.

Therapy deals with the past, but coaching works with the future. One way to feel closer than ever with your partner is to work toward a shared future, and a couples coach can help you on your way.
And it is very important to continue to work on bonding with your partner. Love is a self-sacrificing verb. It asks the question: What can I do for you? The more often the two of you ask each other that question, the closer you will be.

So contact me today to start couples coaching or click here for more information.

Ah, Nature! (or not)

It is a fact that people who live near nature are happier, except those that are not. It comes down to whether you are an introvert or extrovert. Introverts are more comfortable in quiet surroundings and prefer to be closer to nature. If you are an introvert and live in an apartment in the city, it is a good idea to plan getaways to quieter surroundings on a regular basis. It doesn’t have to be a week-long vacation. A day trip to a park might be the ticket.

And, on the opposite side, if you are an extrovert that lives in the wilderness, a different kind of getaway is prescribed. Find out where the party is, and find a way to get to it. Any social gathering will do, as long as there are a lot of people and the conversation is flowing.

Planning on Getting Married?

Have you found that one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Are you thinking it might be time to get married, but you are not sure if you are ready? You may be right.

Marriage is a big step, and you may have spent time thinking about whether the person you are with is the right person to marry. You may even be sure he/she is “The One.” But are you the right person for them? Are you ready for marriage?
Here are a couple of ways to know if you are ready for marriage:
* Give and take: Are you a giver? Do you think of things you can do for your partner? What do you expect in return? The answer should be “nothing.” If you are with the right person, each of you will want to do for the other without any expectation of getting something back. Of course, if you give and give, and never get anything in return, you know they are not the right person.
But it goes both ways. If you allow them to constantly do for you, but you don’t give back, that may be a sign you are not ready for marriage.
* What language is that: What is your love language? Do you feel special when you get and give gifts? Does time together, even going for walk, make you feel gushy inside? What makes you feel special? And what makes your partner feel special? Are you doing for them according to their love language, or yours? If you love getting and giving gifts, but they love doing things together, they won’t care about the gift much. It won’t make them feel the same as you do. Likewise, if your partner is constantly trying to get you to go hiking, dancing, and other things together, but you want gifts, they are loving you according to their love language, not yours. Marriage is about self-sacrifice, for both of you.

Hire A Coach And Set Yourself Free

Every person has limiting beliefs about something.

People generally seek professional advice when they get frustrated or irritated about being stuck due to those limiting beliefs.

But, there are two reasons why they do not take or use the advice they get. First, the advice is usually the professional talking about how they would solve the problem.

That is no different from going to a motivational seminar, however. When you first leave the seminar you are all pumped up. Then, within a few days, you are back to where you were before because what you heard didn’t help make a personal change.
The second reason professional advice rarely works is because the advice did not help remove the original limiting belief that stopped the person. It may be great advice, but if past events have caused a sticking point in the person, they will not be able to use that advice. That is why a professional life coach is so important. A professional coach will help the person shatter those limiting beliefs.
One activity is to look back into your past to find a time when the issue did not affect you. What happened after that to cause the limiting belief? Did someone say or do something negative? Did setbacks cause a belief that you were not good enough?

See that time for what it really is. If it was a person saying or doing something negative, that is on them, not you. If it was a belief formed due to setbacks, look at the setback as a learning opportunity. What did you learn from it? You may see that what you learned from that negative event actually helped you to get where you are. Seeing the incident for what it really is can help to shatter limiting beliefs.

Please contact me if you would like a free initial strategy session. Your Amazing Tomorrow can start right now.

-Dr. Ty

To-Do List

To-do lists can help a great deal, and it is important to categorize your to dos by importance.

But, there is one thing that takes a higher priority than the to-do list; your calendar. So once your to-do list is done for the day (or week), schedule the items on your calendar. Not only will this make it more likely that you will get the items done, but you will also have a better idea about how much of your day will be taken for each item.

Do you find it difficult to get to sleep sometimes? Do tomorrow’s to-do list before you go to bed. Writing the items down will help get them out of your mind so you can relax better before bed.

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Relationships: Are You an Innie or an Outtie?


There is one thing you should know about yourself before you get into a relationship with another person: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

This question is vitally important because, depending on the answer, it can make or break the relationship. Introverts process internally, and they need time to themselves throughout the day. Social settings tend to drain their energy. Extroverts process externally, often talking out what they think about. Alone time can be boring and energy draining, and they love being in crowds.
It does not matter whether your potential partner is the same as you; what matters is that you recognize which they are and which you are. Two introverts (or extroverts) can live a great life together. However, if you are an introvert, like me, and you happen to hit it off with an extrovert, like I did with my wife, life will take you down a wondrous journey. But the one thing that has kept our marriage together is understanding, and complimenting, the differences between us.

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Can Financial Issues Affect Your Marriage?

Financial differences are one of the top reasons people get divorced; and financial issues will rarely, if ever, cause a divorce.

These two statements may seem to be at odds with each other, but they are not.

It is not the finances that cause conflict, but the meaning each person puts behind the finances. One partner may see money as a way to go on vacations, buy new clothing, and go out more often. However, the other partner may see money as a way to save for retirement and the feeling of security that offers. Every person equates money with a certain feeling or set of feelings, and it is those feelings that cause strife between partners in a marriage.
There is one reason why finances can negatively affect a marriage: When both people are not on the same page. And the number one reason both partners would not be on the same page would be a lack of communication. Chances are, if money is a negative stress factor in your marriage, you have not had good discussions on money. Remember, marriage is about compromise. You do not have to agree on everything, but if you can come to a good compromise on how you handle finances, your marriage will grow by leaps and bounds.

The Biggest Business Lesson I Learned

The biggest business lesson I learned as an entrepreneur is that there is no such thing as a solopreneur; meaning you cannot do it alone. Everyone needs help. You may be great at designing a better mouse trap, but that does not mean you are great at marketing. And if you are great at marketing, you may not be great with finances. Nobody can do everything a business, even a one-person operation, requires.

What is the biggest business lesson you have learned?