The word leader has been getting some mixed definitions lately.
A leader is simply a person who has influence over other people. A leader is not necessarily a manager. A manager is a person who is hired to manage employees. Anyone can be a leader, but it is not easy to be a good leader. A good leader will listen to the advice of the other people in the group and act on that advice. Of course, you cannot please everyone all the time, but a good leader will always do what is best for the group in general. And the only way to find out the needs of the group is to listen.
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There is a basic difference between a boss and a leader. A boss uses his/her position to get others to obey them while a leader uses his/her influence. A person does not need to be a boss in order to be a leader. A leader can lead from behind, especially when there is a weak boss. Have you ever been in an organization where the person that runs a department is not the boss, but just another worker?
Change how you ask questions. That is one thing you can do right now to become a better leader. Questions are the lifeblood of coaches. Specific, thought-provoking questions propel a conversation.
This article in Inc. Magazine talks about the one question to stop asking employees. What I like about the article, however, is that it offers substitute questions at the end of the article. It is well worth reading.