Have you found that one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Are you thinking it might be time to get married, but you are not sure if you are ready? You may be right.
Marriage is a big step, and you may have spent time thinking about whether the person you are with is the right person to marry. You may even be sure he/she is “The One.” But are you the right person for them? Are you ready for marriage?
Here are a couple of ways to know if you are ready for marriage:
* Give and take: Are you a giver? Do you think of things you can do for your partner? What do you expect in return? The answer should be “nothing.” If you are with the right person, each of you will want to do for the other without any expectation of getting something back. Of course, if you give and give, and never get anything in return, you know they are not the right person.
But it goes both ways. If you allow them to constantly do for you, but you don’t give back, that may be a sign you are not ready for marriage.
* What language is that: What is your love language? Do you feel special when you get and give gifts? Does time together, even going for walk, make you feel gushy inside? What makes you feel special? And what makes your partner feel special? Are you doing for them according to their love language, or yours? If you love getting and giving gifts, but they love doing things together, they won’t care about the gift much. It won’t make them feel the same as you do. Likewise, if your partner is constantly trying to get you to go hiking, dancing, and other things together, but you want gifts, they are loving you according to their love language, not yours. Marriage is about self-sacrifice, for both of you.