Opposites attract, and that is proven when an introvert and an extrovert get together. Introverts and extroverts in a relationship have the opportunity to discuss how they relax, or recharge. Extroverts love to be in groups of people, happily talking about nothing in particular. That is how extroverts recharge their batteries. The batteries of an introvert, however, will drain very quickly in the same situation. Introverts need time alone to recharge their batteries.
Time alone for an introverted parent, especially when young children are involved, is very important. Let’s say there is a family with one extrovert parent and one introvert parent, which is pretty common. The extrovert parent may come home to loud, rambunctious children and fondly imagine having some alone time for a bit. The introvert parent, however, may desperately need it to stave off insanity.
Communication is important. Introverts incorrectly assume that everyone knows they need to be alone at times. And extroverts sometimes don’t understand how important it is for introverts to have alone time. Introverts need uninterrupted alone time every day, and that can be difficult when young children are involved.
If this sounds like you, carve out some alone time. Then, when your batteries are recharged, have a conversation with your partner. Find out what they need for alone time or social time with you and friends. And discuss with them how you need alone time. Find a compromise. Remember, you are in this together.
Have you found that one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Are you thinking it might be time to get married, but you are not sure if you are ready? You may be right.
Marriage is a big step, and you may have spent time thinking about whether the person you are with is the right person to marry. You may even be sure he/she is “The One.” But are you the right person for them? Are you ready for marriage?
Here are a couple of ways to know if you are ready for marriage:
* Give and take: Are you a giver? Do you think of things you can do for your partner? What do you expect in return? The answer should be “nothing.” If you are with the right person, each of you will want to do for the other without any expectation of getting something back. Of course, if you give and give, and never get anything in return, you know they are not the right person.
But it goes both ways. If you allow them to constantly do for you, but you don’t give back, that may be a sign you are not ready for marriage.
* What language is that: What is your love language? Do you feel special when you get and give gifts? Does time together, even going for walk, make you feel gushy inside? What makes you feel special? And what makes your partner feel special? Are you doing for them according to their love language, or yours? If you love getting and giving gifts, but they love doing things together, they won’t care about the gift much. It won’t make them feel the same as you do. Likewise, if your partner is constantly trying to get you to go hiking, dancing, and other things together, but you want gifts, they are loving you according to their love language, not yours. Marriage is about self-sacrifice, for both of you.
Financial differences are one of the top reasons people get divorced; and financial issues will rarely, if ever, cause a divorce.
These two statements may seem to be at odds with each other, but they are not.
It is not the finances that cause conflict, but the meaning each person puts behind the finances. One partner may see money as a way to go on vacations, buy new clothing, and go out more often. However, the other partner may see money as a way to save for retirement and the feeling of security that offers. Every person equates money with a certain feeling or set of feelings, and it is those feelings that cause strife between partners in a marriage.
There is one reason why finances can negatively affect a marriage: When both people are not on the same page. And the number one reason both partners would not be on the same page would be a lack of communication. Chances are, if money is a negative stress factor in your marriage, you have not had good discussions on money. Remember, marriage is about compromise. You do not have to agree on everything, but if you can come to a good compromise on how you handle finances, your marriage will grow by leaps and bounds.