Planning on Getting Married?

Have you found that one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Are you thinking it might be time to get married, but you are not sure if you are ready? You may be right.

Marriage is a big step, and you may have spent time thinking about whether the person you are with is the right person to marry. You may even be sure he/she is “The One.” But are you the right person for them? Are you ready for marriage?
Here are a couple of ways to know if you are ready for marriage:
* Give and take: Are you a giver? Do you think of things you can do for your partner? What do you expect in return? The answer should be “nothing.” If you are with the right person, each of you will want to do for the other without any expectation of getting something back. Of course, if you give and give, and never get anything in return, you know they are not the right person.
But it goes both ways. If you allow them to constantly do for you, but you don’t give back, that may be a sign you are not ready for marriage.
* What language is that: What is your love language? Do you feel special when you get and give gifts? Does time together, even going for walk, make you feel gushy inside? What makes you feel special? And what makes your partner feel special? Are you doing for them according to their love language, or yours? If you love getting and giving gifts, but they love doing things together, they won’t care about the gift much. It won’t make them feel the same as you do. Likewise, if your partner is constantly trying to get you to go hiking, dancing, and other things together, but you want gifts, they are loving you according to their love language, not yours. Marriage is about self-sacrifice, for both of you.

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Can Financial Issues Affect Your Marriage?

Financial differences are one of the top reasons people get divorced; and financial issues will rarely, if ever, cause a divorce.

These two statements may seem to be at odds with each other, but they are not.

It is not the finances that cause conflict, but the meaning each person puts behind the finances. One partner may see money as a way to go on vacations, buy new clothing, and go out more often. However, the other partner may see money as a way to save for retirement and the feeling of security that offers. Every person equates money with a certain feeling or set of feelings, and it is those feelings that cause strife between partners in a marriage.
There is one reason why finances can negatively affect a marriage: When both people are not on the same page. And the number one reason both partners would not be on the same page would be a lack of communication. Chances are, if money is a negative stress factor in your marriage, you have not had good discussions on money. Remember, marriage is about compromise. You do not have to agree on everything, but if you can come to a good compromise on how you handle finances, your marriage will grow by leaps and bounds.