Speech is an important sign of maturity, and a trait many people forget to look for in a potential partner. Of course, when you first meet someone you want to date everything they say seems to be cute, but how they talk can tell you a lot. Do they put other people down? Do they get angry or frustrated easily? Do little negative comments seem to come out every once in a while? How a person talks will let you know the kind of person they are, if you are willing to listen.
Financial differences are one of the top reasons people get divorced; and financial issues will rarely, if ever, cause a divorce.
These two statements may seem to be at odds with each other, but they are not.
It is not the finances that cause conflict, but the meaning each person puts behind the finances. One partner may see money as a way to go on vacations, buy new clothing, and go out more often. However, the other partner may see money as a way to save for retirement and the feeling of security that offers. Every person equates money with a certain feeling or set of feelings, and it is those feelings that cause strife between partners in a marriage.
There is one reason why finances can negatively affect a marriage: When both people are not on the same page. And the number one reason both partners would not be on the same page would be a lack of communication. Chances are, if money is a negative stress factor in your marriage, you have not had good discussions on money. Remember, marriage is about compromise. You do not have to agree on everything, but if you can come to a good compromise on how you handle finances, your marriage will grow by leaps and bounds.
Throughout my life I have worked for many different companies and in many different industries. Effective communication has been one of the most lacking skills in leadership. This article from Inc. Magazine that has a letter from Elon Musk is a great way to better communicate in an organization.