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Relationships: Taking a Break

Opposites attract, and that is proven when an introvert and an extrovert get together. Introverts and extroverts in a relationship have the opportunity to discuss how they relax, or recharge. Extroverts love to be in groups of people, happily talking about nothing in particular. That is how extroverts recharge their batteries. The batteries of an introvert, however, will drain very quickly in the same situation. Introverts need time alone to recharge their batteries.

Time alone for an introverted parent, especially when young children are involved, is very important. Let’s say there is a family with one extrovert parent and one introvert parent, which is pretty common. The extrovert parent may come home to loud, rambunctious children and fondly imagine having some alone time for a bit. The introvert parent, however, may desperately need it to stave off insanity.

Communication is important. Introverts incorrectly assume that everyone knows they need to be alone at times. And extroverts sometimes don’t understand how important it is for introverts to have alone time. Introverts need uninterrupted alone time every day, and that can be difficult when young children are involved.

If this sounds like you, carve out some alone time. Then, when your batteries are recharged, have a conversation with your partner. Find out what they need for alone time or social time with you and friends. And discuss with them how you need alone time. Find a compromise. Remember, you are in this together.

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Building your kid up

It is difficult being a kid.

You get congratulated for your first words, and then you get told that children should be seen and not heard.

Your first steps get publicized all over social media, then you get in trouble for wandering off. Sometimes children feel like they cannot do anything right, so it is important to build children up and give them kudos for their accomplishments.

I personally do not agree with participation trophies (trophies given out to everyone who shows up), or just telling the child they are smart. Praise them for specific accomplishments. Praise children when they get good grades, do something to help out another person, or do their chores without being asked. This way the child will know specific behaviors that are worth repeating.